Do you ever worry about sounding ‘arrogant’?

Perhaps if someone asks you to talk about your strengths or successes…

You feel the urge to minimise, give credit elsewhere, avoid the conversation entirely, or change the subject as soon as humanely possible! 

And the CRAZY...

As lawyers, we are GREAT at using our ‘executive’ brain. 

That’s the part of our brain capable of reasoning and problem solving. 

Let us loose analysing some complex documents or making a logical argument and we are on FIRE! Very useful. High fives all round.

But...

When I was an associate, I had a colleague who was SO smart. 

He just ‘got things’ so quickly. 

My poor imposter syndrome brain could not take it!  

So much compare and despair. 

Constant thoughts about how much ‘smarter’ he was than me. 

...

Have you ever felt panic at work? 

Let me set the scene…

You’re happily working away at your desk. An email pops into your inbox from a client. They point out an error in a draft doc you recently sent through. Another email immediately pops into your inbox from the partner on...

Just a reminder that you DON’T need confidence to do the thing. 

Confidence in doing a specific thing comes AFTER you have done it many times. 

When your brain will happily send you thoughts like:

• I know exactly what to do.
• I know the answer.

If you’re doing something new...

Hey {{first_name}}

Would you like to go into this year creating more sustainable habits at work?

Perhaps you’d like to leave the office at a reasonable hour more often. Maybe you want to create more time to go to the gym, see friends or go on that date…

Sounds...

In case you need to hear this today….

These are a list of things your clients DON’T care about: 

• Whether or not, you’re “good enough”.
• How smart you are compared to your colleagues. 
• Whether or not you “deserve” your job. 

Things they DO...

Have you ever struggled to be ‘present’ in your life outside of work?

I used to find it SO hard to turn off my brain. 

I would constantly be: 

• worrying about incomplete tasks
• ruminating about potential mistakes
• nervous that work would interrupt my free time.

So even when I...

I was just coaching a client who was feeling really anxious. 

She was worried about an upcoming internal review.

Her fear was that they didn’t think she’s a good fit for the team.  

Her ultimate fear was the humiliation she would feel if she was let go. 

Can you...

Just a reminder that if you have BIG goals…

You can expect to feel BIG emotions. 

Don’t let that stop you.  

When I was going for partnership, I was feeling a LOT.

• Fear of rejection.
• Anxiety about whether I was good enough.
• Awkwardness in dreaded networking...